Man in White Suit Holding Clear Drinking Glass
Man in White Suit Holding Clear Drinking Glass

“Addiction aren’t the problem, at least of course they are a problem but they’re also the attempt to solve a problem”

One of the outcomes of childhood distress is addiction so that if you look at the research literature in addiction, the more adversity you’ve experienced in your childhood the greater the risk of addiction exponentially, now addictions are not the problem at least of course they are a problem but they’re also the attempt to solve a problem and the problem is unbearable psychic distress or pain so there’s no understanding of addiction without understanding human pain and there’s no such thing if you’re in pain without understanding human childhood experience so it all goes back to it and that’s for two reasons, one is that it instills the pain that then you try and soothe with the drugs and not just the drugs also with addictive behaviors of all kinds from shopping to eating to work to internet to pornography to gambling, video games, whatever you’re addicted to… these are all your attempts to escape pain, distress, discomfort with the self and no infant is uncomfortable with themselves so that discomfort is a response to the parents discomfort and in the case of the most traumatized population is the parents high level of dysfunction which goes back to their own childhoods so there’s no one to blame it’s multi-generational but it’s that source transmitted.

It’s not genetic alcoholism and it is not a genetic drug addiction and it is not a genetic disease, that’s one of those myths that our society likes to hold onto that it runs in families but not because of genes but because of emotional patterns and behaviors that give a rise to that same pain and that same desire to escape from the pain so that’s the first reason, the second reason why childhood traumatic experiences causes addiction is because it actually shapes their brain in certain ways so that the brain’s reward chemicals, the circuitry that modulates those chemicals doesn’t develop as well in a traumatized child so the surface that regulates stress is to do something that’s soothe their pain temporarily so when you’re stressed you drink a lot a lot or shop and spend money you haven’t got do drugs…..those circuits again develop or don’t in response to childhood experience and the more supportive the security environment the more optimally those circuits develop now you’ve got the reward and the pleasure and happiness so the chemicals inside you are available to you for what happens so if the environment doesn’t promote or encourage that kind of development then you’ll be seeking it from the outside so addiction whether physical or behavioral is all about trying to seek something from the outside that you’re not able to generate from within and it all goes back to pain and loss and in severe cases from you.

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